We work with men of all ages who are suffering from the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Men with BPD typically struggle with mood instability, such as extreme bouts of anger, aggression, or rage. They may cope using drugs or alcohol. Men with BPD also struggle with relationship problems and are unable to sustain healthy friendships or relationships with a significant other. They also suffer with a poor self-image and usually feel a need to cover up their poor self-worth with grandiosity. Their behaviors are ultimately self-destructive. This instability often disrupts a man's family and work life and severely hinders his long-term planning or career success.
Here are some of the symptoms related to BDP:
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with Borderline Personality Disorder
We specialize in working with men of all ages who have either been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder or who believe that they are suffering with BPD based on some of the above criteria.
If you or a loved one is suffering with any of these symptoms, it's time to speak with a professional about getting help:
When men with BPD come into my practice, most often they come for other reasons. Many are referred to a therapist because of "anger management" problems and aggression or because of problems related to addiction. Other men may come into my office as a result of a bad relationship breakup that has left them intensely hurt and confused. Most men with BPD aren't professionally or medically diagnosed, yet they suffer from many of the symptoms of this disorder, especially with regard to emotional dysregulation. While less well known than schizophrenia or bipolar disorder (manic-depressive illness), BPD is more common, affecting 2 percent of adults and account for 20 percent of psychiatric hospitalizations.There is a high rate of self-injury without suicide intent, as well as a significant rate of suicide attempts and completed suicide in severe cases. Yet, with help men often benefit from mental health treatment, and many improve over time and are eventually able to lead productive lives.
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, borderline personality disorder is more likely to be diagnosed in women. However, this is problematic, because women usually get helped while young men get labeled. In actuality, the largest study ever done on the prevalence of BPD in men and women showed no real difference: Click Here. The real problem is that clinicians are less likely to diagnose a male with BPD due to biases in previous research. We believe that young men who could be appropriately diagnosed with BPD and professionally helped are being undiagnosed and are falling victim to this life-controlling disease.
Males in their earlier years are typically stigmatized with negative labels, such as: anti-social, aggressive, defiant, violent, criminal, oppositional, narcissistic, etc. Most parents mistakenly believe it's just a "phase" that their sons are going through. They often say, "He'll grow out of it someday," only to find out that years later he hasn't grown out of it, but has suffered from an inability to finish school, hold down a job, or sustain healthy and meaningful relationships. Most are bright and creative, yet they often lack the ability to regulate their emotions and become overwhelmed by negative, self-defeating thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
Young men suffering with borderline personality disorder are frequently overlooked by the educational system because of their inherent difficulties with authority figures and their difficulty following school rules. Once these young men are ignored or put out by the educational system, they quickly fall through the cracks in society, and most likely they will end up in trouble, joining gangs, committing criminal acts, unemployable, or eventually finding themselves behind bars. I witnessed this problem while working scores of young men within several high schools in Queens, New York.
However, there is hope! Well-informed interventions early in life can help a majority of these young men avoid a path of rejection and hardship by giving them the tools and skills to manage their emotions, successfully communicate their needs, and to help them sustain meaningful relationships. Men, of all ages, suffering with the symptoms of male borderline personality disorder can improve over time and live productive lives. Working one-on-one with a professional therapist has proven to be highly effective bringing about positive changes in young men suffering from borderline personality disorder.